New Age, New Worries


I hate to think about it.

I can feel my stomach start to churn.

This isn’t right.

My son is 19.  He has stumbled along, trying to figure out what he wants to do with his life.  It has been a challenge but he is meeting it.  Slowly he is  making his way.

Unlike his brother who finished high school and instantly knew what he wanted to do in terms of a career, my youngest son has been a bit more uncertain.  He has applied for a variety of trades but finding the right fit isn’t easy.

He needs a job with great benefits. He wants something that will interest him.  He needs to be employable in a slumping economy.  It can be a challenge for any young person.

He isn’t just any young person however.  He is a young person with diabetes and  diabetes doesn’t care that he doesn’t know what he wants to do with the rest of his life.

Diabetes doesn’t care that he may soon be removed from his parent’s insurance plan.

Diabetes doesn’t care that he doesn’t have a job with insurance.

Diabetes doesn’t care that his provincial drug plan offers very little assistance.

Diabetes demands that he check bg levels multiple times per day.  He still must find insulin to use daily. He is required  to make appointments and order insulin pump supplies. Diabetes doesn’t care how he does any of these things but if he wants to live, he has to find a way.

He is just 19.  He should be concerned with going to school. He should be concerned with finding a career path.  He shouldn’t be concerned with health care costs.

The reality is that those are things that he has to be concerned with however.  He is still in school but will insurance still recognize this? I am not sure.

There is some help for pump supplies in our province but because of some of his own mis-steps, his coverage has lapsed. Together we will work on getting him back in the program but it will take time.

There is a provincial drug plan.  They  allow you a set number of test strips for the year but some strips covered will be better than none when the time comes.

Some days the reality of life with an expensive illness…well its overwhelming despite the fact that I am not  the person who has to test or inject daily.  He understands that it will be expensive.  This is his life. It has been for loner than he can remember. It still makes my heart ache. I still wish that I could take it away.

I can’t. We will do our best and that will be fine.

Spare a Rose, Save a Child

I am not really into Valentines Day.  When my boys were younger, we did the cards for their class. If I was feeling creative, we did “hugs and kisses” or Valentine pencils.  For those times when I totally forgot that Valentines was about to happen, we did heart shaped sugar cookies that the boys took to share with their class. 

My boys are now much older and school Valentines are no longer important.   This weekend I received an email that has made this “Hallmark holiday” very special however. Diabetes Advocates and the Diabetes Online Community have come together to help the Life for a child program, sponsored by the International Diabetes Federation, which aims to take “contributions for donors (to) go to established diabetes centers enabling them to provide the ongoing clinical care and diabetes education these children need to stay alive.” 

There have been times in the past 13 years when money was tight, insurance was not available and I had to limit the amount of testing my son did during the run of a day.  That was scary enough but I never had to worry about him not having insulin to cover his food or stay healthy.  For children in developing countries, these worries are very real but this Valentines Day you can help! 

Spare a Rose, Save a Child, is a simple and amazing way to make a difference.  This year, when you head out to buy your beloved a dozen roses buy eleven.  No, you will not then be spending your night alone or sleeping on the couch because you will have taken the money that would have paid for that last rose and donated it to the Life for a Child program! You will have helped to save a child with one beautiful rose.  Your partner will love your thoughtfulness much more than the extra rose.  It really is a win-win opportunity!

So if you were planning on sending me a dozen roses on Thursday, I will fully understand when I receive 11–actually I will be pleased to note that a child will be able to inject life saving insulin for another week because I received one less rose. And, if you weren’t sending them to me, I am sure whomever was getting them will be just as happy to know that you spared a rose to save a child

Happy Valentines Day!