Make it go away…

Today I had a conversation with my son that left me both devastated and frustrated. I know that he is just being a teen. I know that he is trying to exasperate me…and he succeeded.

My son has a diabetes clinic appointment coming up in a few days.  Neither of us are excited by this event.  We don’t really get a lot out of it and the wait times are crazy.  He can’t wait until he doesn’t have to go anymore. I reminded him that he will always have to go to have prescriptions refilled, etc.He was not impressed. I have told him that I have to do the same thing but that does not appease him.  We have been doing this since he was 2 and he wants to see an end date.

We discussed the fact that he had to attend his clinic appointments because  he needed a doctor to sign off on his driver’s licence in the fall. I don’t know what exactly is involved in the licensing procedure but I am pretty sure that his doctor has to give him the okay.  My son then asked if his licence would be restricted.  I assumed it would, just as a person with glasses must wear glasses, someone using insulin will have to be using their insulin.

He was not completely appeased but was doing okay until a little later on.  He was complaining about his being hot feet and stated that he should run around barefoot all of the time.  I said that that may not be the best idea.  He said it was fine for the Indians! I said that they were not running on insulin and he had to watch his feet.

That was the final straw for him.  He asked why he should even bother to get out of bed in the morning? He would have to watch his feet for the rest of his life.  He has to check his blood each time before he could drive.  What is the point to any of it? If he was born years ago, they would have left him to die and maybe that was the right thing!

I wanted to cry (and still do).  I wanted to scream–are you crazy!!!???? I almost lost you once! That is NOT the sort of talk I want to hear EVER!

I tried not to be mad. I tried to understand but I simply said, “Yep it sucks but that is your life and you will handle it.”

I know this is teen frustration. I know it will pass but he does scare me.  When he does not have me around, he doesn’t bother to test. He swears he can tell if he is high or low and he just wings it.  Yes, he probably can tell when he is running in range but the higher he runs himself the less sensitive he is and the more danger he skirts around. What will he do when he is on his own? The years are passing so quickly.

I have been sent an advanced copy of Moira McCarthy’s new book “Raising Teens with Diabetes”.  Perhaps she will have some strategies to help me cope. I think I could use a few about now. sad

7 thoughts on “Make it go away…”

  1. I know it’s crazy & there will be days like this. I know I am a 46 yr. old mother of 3. I was diagnosed 3 years ago with Type-1. I was given a crash course on how to use the insulin, how much to eat & sent on my way. I cried, & every so often I still cry alone because there is so much to understand. There was a full year were I didn’t check myself or take my insulin but then I looked at my family & made the choice to take care of myself. I have gotten my sugar levels under 190, which IS a big improvement from above 300. So just be there for him, give him hugs, tell him it’s gonna be alright & you’ll be there with him to learn with him. Your young man will come around & it will click….Lot of Love

  2. I totally understand where Liam is coming from and I do not blame him. By far the two worst things about Type I for me are clinician visits (which are useless) and the huge expense of paying for healthcare supplies. I still remain bitter that in 1974 I was told that I would “never wear sandals or go barefoot”. Now 40 years later I started wearing sandals a few years ago. Choice is more important than long life to me. My humble advice having been a kid and teen with Type I is to give Liam a choice. Let him manage his diabetes any way he chooses as long as he understands the trade-off: long term health vs many decades of normal life and a somewhat shorter life. Easy choice for me. I’m well over my predicted age of death by age 40! :) The rest is bonus time! :)

    1. There are sandals that have covered toes. That should protect your feet well enough. My mother was always protective of her feet and made us be also. Nobody was a diabetic. I never let my kids wear sandals and they are not diabetic. Some of the covered toe models I would let my kids wear. I look after my feet and legs and have always had more calluses than my type 1 husband. I also have varicose veins in one leg. I like to moooove so I really insist on protecting my feet and legs. Now if I could just lose some weight. . .

  3. Hang in there! My teen is not diabetic like me, though he’s more disgruntled than I am! It’s a teen thing. You’re an amazing mother!!!! Have an amazing day!!!!!

  4. Liam, as you go through life health challenges will only increase. That is true for everyone not just people with a chronic disease or type 1 diabetes. You just have to learn to look after yourself well a little sooner than most. On the other hand, most healthy adults adopted healthy habits when young. I think you only are in danger of losing your driver’s licence if you collapse at the wheel or have bad accidents. The insurance co. and the government don’t care about your A1C . . . yet. Maybe, they should. That would smarten diabetics up a lot, I bet.

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