The Talk

My son is now an adult.

He is living at home again while he does some upgrading and starts training for his chosen career.

Its hard to believe that my baby is an adult but he is. The law says so. He has his own car. He can drink…and to my surprise (because he is my baby) he does drink.

He seems to be responsible…well as responsible as you can be at his age. When he drinks he doesn’t drive. When he goes out, he brings along a friend who is a designated driver and doesn’t drink. He spends the night at that friend’s place so that he doesn’t drive again until he is sober.

He brings his test kit. He has his spare supplies and extra glucose with him.alcohol-drinks-1

He has a system when he drinks. He has already learned how certain beverages effect his bg levels. He is pretty confident in what he is doing.

How do I know this? Because he told me.  We were discussing his night out.  I was giving him a little bit of the information that I had learned about diabetes and alcohol thanks to places like the Diabetes Mine.  He told me his experience.  I asked what he would do if heaven forbid, he got falling down drunk.  How could he handle things? He told me that he had been there. He began to tell me what he did.

I was shocked.  This was my little boy. I began to walk out of the room. I didn’t want to know. I didn’t want to think of my baby as drinking. I really didn’t want to think of my little boy getting drunk. He stopped me.

He told me that I had to know. It was important for me to understand. If I didn’t listen to him, I would worry more. He wanted me to know that he was listening, learning and growing up. It was going to be okay.

I listened. I was proud that he would have this dialog with me. It was candid. It was honest. Nothing was hidden to make me feel better. It was raw.

It was tough to hear. It was good to hear.

He has stumbled. I have cried. He has learned. So have I. Together we will continue to get through.

I am glad he feels that he can talk to me.  I am glad that he has learned. I am proud that he wants me to be okay as well.

One thought on “The Talk”

  1. Tell your son to smoke weed instead. Or be a choir boy. Booze is really bad news for a type 1 diabetic.

    I’m tired so I’m being pretty blunt. I had to give my dh a glucagon shot tonight. Fortunately, he had very little insulin on board when he collapsed and no alcohol. I got home late after being out for 5 hours 30 minutes. I had reduced his basal to (I thought .025 units / h., but now, I think .5 units / h. before I left at 3 pm). His meal bolus finished at 5:30 pm.

    I don’t need the stress of a guy who drinks as well as a guy who has type 1 diabetes. Why don’t you tell to read the books by Melonie Beatty. [I think that’s the author.] Up from Co-Dependency. Co-dependency No Longer. etc.

    A person with type 1 diabetes is going to be a pain in the butt from time to time, but he isn’t going to make my life worse by him expecting me to pull out of an hypoglycemic event mixed up with boozing. You or a friend should not have to put up with that either.

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